Q: Since becoming
a father my wife and I haven’t been able to spend as much time with our friends as we used to. Some
of them seem to understand that we’re new parents and our time is limited, but others don’t. They
think we should be able to go out as a couple and socialize just as much as we did before we had a
child. Is there anything we can do to keep our friendships alive?
A: Considering how
small and helpless babies are, it’s really amazing that they can have such a powerful impact on the
lives of the adults around them. Simply by being born, your baby has already transformed you and
your partner from a “couple” into “parents” and your parents and in-laws into, gasp, “grandparents.” Even more amazing is the impact that babies have on the pre-existing relationships
between the adults in their lives. Babies can bring a couple together, for example, or they can
create a lot of stress (or at least magnify it). They can reunite families and mend old wounds or
they can open new ones. They can even change the nature of your friendships.
Here are a few ways
this might play out:
As your kids get older their impact on your friendships will continue to
Here are some things you can do to smooth out the bumps in your changing