I wouldn’t be offended by any of those things. Not all women are that easily pushed over the edge.
Neillsays
You and many others say, “Remember that marriage is hard work.”
That’s a limiting belief. Why should it be hard?
Kimberlysays
I agree with you, Neill. Relationships are challenging, only because we so want others to agree with us. When they don’t, we’re challenged to open ourselves & see that there are other viewpoints besides our own! “Hard” is limiting. I like to think of marriage as a joy – a joyful endeavor in which I can learn & grow through laughter & tears alike.
I also question the ideas of a husband lying to his wife in order to “make” her feel good. I truly believe in a woman empowering herself to find her own self worth. She cannot get this through her husband. I believe a truly intimate relationship is built on truth & trust. A woman who does her own work to build her self worth will not need her husband to lie to her & say he didn’t even notice that her friend Susie is pretty, among other things advised here. A woman who embraces her own beauty can embrace & acknowledge the beauty in others. Yes, it’s wonderful to know that my husband continues to choose me day after day, but I certainly don’t need him to act like he went blind to all else when he married me.
Love, in its deepest form is an action that we agree to take every day – even when our emotions tell us otherwise. I want to love, even when I may not “feel” my best or when I’m not getting what I want. I want to honor my husband in his masculinity & his humanity, which definitely means he thinks differently than I do – thank God! That’s what makes it challenging & also fun.
And, as far as the “fat jeans” go, I really appreciate knowing that my husband is going to tell me the truth about the way I look. Of course he thinks I’m beautiful – he loves me! Because of that, I can trust him to give me an honest opinion of an outfit I’ve picked out that’s just not all that!
I hope some of my comments may have helped to show that all women do not think the same way, just as all men do not. Best policy – really get to know each other & love each other for who you are – not in terms of how “all women” or “all men” think.
KimberlyCainBlog
Cheryl says
I wouldn’t be offended by any of those things. Not all women are that easily pushed over the edge.
Neill says
You and many others say, “Remember that marriage is hard work.”
That’s a limiting belief. Why should it be hard?
Kimberly says
I agree with you, Neill. Relationships are challenging, only because we so want others to agree with us. When they don’t, we’re challenged to open ourselves & see that there are other viewpoints besides our own! “Hard” is limiting. I like to think of marriage as a joy – a joyful endeavor in which I can learn & grow through laughter & tears alike.
I also question the ideas of a husband lying to his wife in order to “make” her feel good. I truly believe in a woman empowering herself to find her own self worth. She cannot get this through her husband. I believe a truly intimate relationship is built on truth & trust. A woman who does her own work to build her self worth will not need her husband to lie to her & say he didn’t even notice that her friend Susie is pretty, among other things advised here. A woman who embraces her own beauty can embrace & acknowledge the beauty in others. Yes, it’s wonderful to know that my husband continues to choose me day after day, but I certainly don’t need him to act like he went blind to all else when he married me.
Love, in its deepest form is an action that we agree to take every day – even when our emotions tell us otherwise. I want to love, even when I may not “feel” my best or when I’m not getting what I want. I want to honor my husband in his masculinity & his humanity, which definitely means he thinks differently than I do – thank God! That’s what makes it challenging & also fun.
And, as far as the “fat jeans” go, I really appreciate knowing that my husband is going to tell me the truth about the way I look. Of course he thinks I’m beautiful – he loves me! Because of that, I can trust him to give me an honest opinion of an outfit I’ve picked out that’s just not all that!
I hope some of my comments may have helped to show that all women do not think the same way, just as all men do not. Best policy – really get to know each other & love each other for who you are – not in terms of how “all women” or “all men” think.
KimberlyCainBlog