Having 2nd Child

[GhostCow]

Hello, I am new here today...I am a father of a 3 year old little girl, she is great. When I got home from work Friday my wife surprised me with the news that she is pregnant!!! Having a second child was something we had talked about...but no decisions had been made.

Well...I wish I could say that I was a little more excited, I did my best to be excited and happy with my wife. But inside I am scared!!! I am sure that she could see throughout the weekend that I was in deep thought.

I am worried about $$, room in our home, etc...but most of all I worry about myself and how I will be able to handle two kids. My daughter and I have so much fun hanging out and playing. How she will be effected having to share Mommy & Daddy with a new sibling. Most of all I worry about my patience.

My wife is great, she works also, but when it really comes down to it I am the primary care giver for our current child. Getting her fed, bathed, ready to go each morning, etc...I am going to need her to step up big time when this second baby comes. How do you talk to a pregnaget women about being more engaged?

FYI - I kinda hope it's another girl (just cause we have all the cloths and I kinda know what to expect)!!! I really am excited, I think just more scared than excited right now.

Thanks for reading, any feed back would be great.

[joelewis456]

Hey,
I'm new to this site, but I know exactly how you feel. I have two boys 1 and 2. Our 2nd son came at a big surprise right as my job was handing out layoffs and huge pay cuts. We didn't believe in abortions so we just preyed that everything would workout and it did. I think the biggest thing most new dads have to understand is, almost everything we worry about never happens. We hype ourselves up to think the worse but the worse never happens. About talking to your wife however, I would advise that you guys go to your favorite place to relax and you explain to her the challenge you will face in a friendly way to get friendly feedback. Once you guys come to an agreement and it's the best for the family, stick to it. It's not easy at all. Actually, I haven't had a good night sleep in a full year. Four hours is the max. Hope this helps.
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