Divorce Advice need help

[cas2]

Hey Guys, my wife and i are splitting up, long story short i dont know anyone personally who is divorced so i have no idea where to get advice. we are both pretty broke right now so we want to end it quickly and cheap. Has anyone done online divorces? are they legit? thanks

[ctay89]

That's tricky, as most divorces are never simple. There's always an emotional element, and neither side is typically happy with the result, so a third-part mediator is almost always needed. Going online, you can get all of the needed forms, and follow all of the calculators for alimony and child support, but that doesn't mean you'll come to an agreement. And even if you do, your documents will need to be taken to a court to be made legal and all that. Also, it depends upon how much custody you want to have. The default for this situation, is the traditional sort of thing, where the mother will receive full custody, and you'll have to settle for around 20% visitation. If you want joint custody, there's no way around getting lawyers, and discussing the situation. Really, it all depends upon how you and your spouse are getting along. If you think both sides will be reasonable, and likely to agree on whatever comes out, then go ahead with just the online forms, but if there's a chance either of you could get annilated in the divorce, I would say find a mediator. It's the least costly way to arrange the situation both financially, and for custody of the child. Remember, once you've agreed to child support, there is no way to get out of it.

[N723GW]

Hey man, divorce sucks, as you may of heard, and its true, how ever many years you were together, it will take at least that many to get over the marriage - and back on your feet. As far as the online stuff goes, I don't know what state you live in, but I would not do it. If you and your soon to be ex can agree on EVERYTHING, there is a chance you can go to the court and not have anything to pay for. I wasted $2000 with my ex, to get completely shafted. Now, some states will let you waive the costs for getting a divorce. It all depends on who files. For example, if you go to your local court house, ask them for the papers to get a divorce, also have your soon to be ex get them. Then see if you can get an application for the fees to be waived. Some states have calculators that allow you to not pay a thing, based off of you or your soon to be ex's income. Even though you are sure that you and her are making the right decision, take a step back and think about it. Is there something short term that you and her can not work out? Are you sure this is the path that you want to do down? This may sound morbid, but, plan on being alone forever. Think about it long and hard. Discuss it with her. Since there is a kid involved, there is more to it then just you and her not getting along. Michigan requires a 6 month wait on divorce, simply because of a "cool off" period, where they want the two people to try to work it out. I won't lie, my ex and I got back together twice during the 6 months. But her lack of commitment and my non-attraction to her caused us to terminate our marriage. I know you may not be able to afford it, but GET LEGAL HELP! At least call an attorney for a free consultation. Do not go into it blind. There are SO MANY things she can screw you on simply because you are a man. The court system does not favor us and I'd hate to see a fellow father get screwed as I did. Good luck, and if you have any other questions feel free to contact me!