I agree that it must start with the parents setting the example, to include the swearing and saying please and thank you. I have seen many children who don't have any respect for adults, and their parents wonder why. But the parents are either not setting the example, or are not ENFORCING the rules. Many parents of unruly children don't correct their children when they are doing something wrong, or they do it only part of the time. Children not only need rules to guide their behavior, but they need consistant rules to avoid confusion. As for the shoes, I take them off when I come in the house, the kids too. It prevents tracking dirt, mud and leaves all over the house to begin with. My children are not shy when they meet new people, they will shake their hand and say "Nice to meet you, Mr. ____" My children even use Mr. or Ms. for the first name of the adults, such as "Thank you, Ms. Janet." I get lots of compliments on my childrens manners, and it's rewarding. So, it's up to you, parents, to enforce the rules consistantly for your children to follow, and also set the example for yourself.