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Five Minutes with Po Bronson

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Po Bronson has written many books on parenting, including NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children.     

He talks about his experiences:

Youíve written books on parenting, including NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children. What is the one thing you think parents should know about your work?
That itís a fun, fascinating read Ė if you did a map of all the parenting manuals on one dimension, and all the daddy memoirs on another dimension, our book would need a third dimension to be accurately mapped. It shares almost no qualities with those typical categories of parenting books.

What are your feelings about the role of the father in child development?
Scientifically, thereís data on fathers, certainly. But as the role of fathers is morphing, and becoming less distinguished from the role of mothers, the specialized roles fathers play in child development is evaporating. We looked into a special chapter on the Science of Fathers, but felt like the story was changing too fast. Ultimately, our book is about parents Ė and only breaks apart mothers and fathers a few times.

What is the best thing dads can do in the raising of their children?
Have a relationship with their children thatís honest, not strategic or manipulative.

What is the biggest error dads can make in raising their children?
Inconsistent discipline. Inconsistent expectations. Inconsistency in general is the plague of otherwise wonderful, well-meaning progressive fathers.

Itís been said that the greatest regret aging men have is that they didnít spend more time with their kids. How do you feel about that statement?
I hear that comment all the time from readers, but in my family that regret would have been my fatherís father Ė and then my father changed the pattern. I was blessed with a father who left work early every day to be with me or one of my two brothers. He took us on trips, took us camping, boating, coached my brothersí teams Ö he set an example that is hard to repeat, honestly. But Iím trying.

Every generation worries that their kids arenít strong enough to handle the real world. Do you feel kids need to be ďtoughened upĒ by experiencing rough times?
Non-recurring hardship is beneficial if itís worked through, positively, with children and parents together. But just as often Ė or more often Ė itís not worked through, and it causes children lasting fears. Unlike many, I donít romanticize the lives of children who have to endure consistent hardship.

Or conversely, do you think kids need to be smothered with love to give them storehouse of good feelings with which to deal with the inevitable challenges of life in the real world?
Having written the seminal article debunking the self-esteem movement and showing how praise is overused, I think people know itís not a storehouse of good feelings that results. Kids do need to feel they can come to their parents for genuine help.

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