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How to stop your child from whining

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The image of a Ďfamily day outí with two kids whining on the backseat can seem like the epitome of family life. But as dads, we have all been there.

It would be wonderful if there was a magic cure to stop kids whining, but unfortunately most of them do at some stage. The good news is that it is a habit that can easily be broken with consistency and gentle encouragement.

First, it is important to understand why children do it. Kids whine for a very simple reason and that is to get their parentís attention. But whining is not a conscious strategy on their part, it is learned behavior and believe it or not moms and dads often play a part. If a child asks for something politely and the parent doesnít respond straight away, the child will make it more difficult for their parent to ignore them.

While a toddler may throw a tantrum, an older child, who has more self-control, is more likely to whine. But donít despair, there are a number of easy steps you can take to break your childís habit.

  • If your child is continually whining it may be because he or she is ill or in pain. Sometimes it is difficult for kids to explain how they feel and they use whining as a way of telling you that something is wrong.
  • Parents should not wait until children are in distress before paying them attention. If you are on the phone or in the middle of something it is important to respond to your child. Stop what you are doing for a second. Make eye contact and tell your child firmly that you will be with them in a minute. Then give your child attention as soon as you can.
  • Lead by example. Say to your child, ĎI donít like it when you whine.  If you want something, say it in your normal voice, like thisí.
  • Mean what you say. Make sure that no means no and follow it up. If you bow to pressure from your childís constant whining they will quickly identify it as an easy way of getting what they want.
  • Another great way to deal with whining is to pretend that you donít understand what they have said. Say to your child, ĎI donít understand you when you speak in that whining voice, if you speak in a normal voice like a big girl/boy then I can understand youí.
  • Finally, if your child continues to whine, have a go at whining back so they can hear how unpleasant it sounds. Whine at your child and say to them, ĎI am sure you donít realize you are doing this but that is how you sound when you whine. Doesnít it sound childish?í
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By Sherrill,   From Great Bend
If you'll accept advice from a grandmother of nice, as well as a former teacher, I offer the following suggestion: Frequently it helps for children to be read fun-stories that illustrate the unpleasantness of bad behavior and ways to correct it. For instance, sometimes children donít understand how annoying the sound of whining can be. My latest children's book, "Peter and the Whimper-Whineys" by Sherrill S. Cannon is a story of a little rabbit who does nothing but whine. This rhyming book should be read with alternating normal voice and whining voice, according to the character speaking. Children learn that Whimper-Whineyland is not a fun place to be, not just for all the whining and crying that goes on but for all the other bad behaviour and unpleasant character traits exemplified!!! The book can be found on amazon where there is the read-inside-the-book feature, as well as on barnesandnoble.. I hope that this might help your child as well as it has helped my children and grandchildren

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