Top 10 Dad Tips for Getting Laid

sex with my husand is great! What woman doesn't want to feel amazing and sexy? The misunderstanding, selfish ones who think marriage is only about how THEY feel and not their husbands. Read Dr. Laura's book "proper care and feeding of husbands" to learn more. I love my husband, love that he loves me and love that he tries to make our lovemaking all about me-makes me want to give him more.

I think that the kinds of guys looking for a site like greatdad are already doing the things that Sean mentioned. While I agree that it is very difficult and an inhuman amount of patience is necessary in this area, not all hope is lost. Sharon's comments got me thinking, and it makes a lot more sense when I think about it from the perspective of "boys and girls hear different things about sex as they are growing up.

For now, just take what you can get. Be nice, patient, loving, and try to surprise her every now and then. That's my plan, and I hope it works!

I'm with Sean and JackR.

Our son is now 1 year and a month and we've only had sex 1x since before he was born. it was quickie shower sex thanks to her friends visiting who watched our son and encouraged us to take time for a shower together.

It is very frustrating and mostly i just want to be understood by her that it's very hard (no pun intended). I don't know if women realize that sexual release is necessary for a man.

I miss the spiritual connectedness we experienced by making love and i worry that we're locking into a long-term pattern where our intimacy is compromised.

Now it often feels like our relationship has become all about taking care of our beautiful great amazing son.

I miss my woman and my sexual frustration drives me crazy. There's so many factors involved though and my wife just doesn't seem to have energy for anything other than trying to make it through the day. Perhaps with more rest she'll feel like making love again. Until then, i seriously wish she'd buy me a Fleshlight!

I'm with Sean and JackR.

Our son is now 1 year and a month and we've only had sex 1x since before he was born. it was quickie shower sex thanks to her friends visiting who watched our son and encouraged us to take time for a shower together.

It is very frustrating and mostly i just want to be understood by her that it's very hard (no pun intended). I don't know if women realize that sexual release is necessary for a man.

I miss the spiritual connectedness we experienced by making love and i worry that we're locking into a long-term pattern where our intimacy is compromised.

Now it often feels like our relationship has become all about taking care of our beautiful great amazing son.

I miss my woman and my sexual frustration drives me crazy. There's so many factors involved though and my wife just doesn't seem to have energy for anything other than trying to make it through the day. Perhaps with more rest she'll feel like making love again. Until then, i seriously wish she'd buy me a Fleshlight!

I happened upon this site through a twitter about sex. I'm passionate about keeping up with what people are feeling & thinking about sex in our culture, as I believe it has been kept in the shadows for far too long.

I'm soon to release a novel called Heaven, about the nature of God as seen through the eyes of Eve - an exotic dancer. It's a highly sexual & spiritual work. I did a lot of research on people's feelings about sex & God & found much repression & negativity. Many people feel like they can't be both - sexual & spiritual - but that's what we are as humans. We need both elements to be whole. Sex is an amazing gift that we have to give to each other & to experience. To think of it as another thing on a long list that "has to be done" is like selling your own self into slavery. Pleasure is essential for joyful living. Joy is the essence of spirit.

The guys here who mentioned getting a mistress are missing the potential for the hottest sex of their lives with the one they really love AND sowing seeds of destruction like they can't even imagine down the road for many people. It's unimaginative & is only a split-second fix.

However, the women who see sex as an obligation are doing the very same thing!

I believe the first step is talking about sex openly - with each other & in forums like this one. Real love desires see the beloved in a state of pleasure. It is life-giving & life-healing.

HeavenTheNovel
KimberlyCainBlog -God+Sex=Making Love!

I love my Friend. See i been with my Friend(Wife) for quite awhile. And i found threw out, not just this relationship, but others. That sex, isnt product on delivery. Somthing that isnt timed or scheduled. It`s based off an emotion. Love, Want. So maybe we shouldnt just focus on the things we do for her. Or maybe not focus on "The shit she just wont do". Like she wont let me fuck. We need to focus on that RAW emotion. Keep her interested. And ALWAYS keep the idea she is your friend FIRST. Wife second. That where you start the relationship. and most guys forget it.

I don't know all the answers to this but I know a few things:
1. Women are as frustrated about losing libido as men are about them losing it.
2. Even if our bodies feel ready, it takes a lot to make our minds relax when you, kids, job, parents, house, school, church and God knows what else are floating around up there.
3. Unfortunately, we are raised to think very differently about sex than you are.

I can't think of a place in the world, even France, where most women are raised to think sex is wonderful. We are all to some degree (!)taught that sex is bad, from our moms and other women in our lives and, guess what, from our dads as well. You know how you're already thinking you're gonna hang the first guy who comes sniffing around your daughter? Or how you're worried about her getting pregnant and "ruining her life"? How you leave any discussion of sex up to her mom and those other women who sit around degrading men however unintentionally? As adults we think that's all kinda funny the way we talk about the opposite sex. But our kids hear it. We worry what they hear in the media, but we don't worry near enough about what they hear at home. "Boys will be boys and girls need to protect themselves".

Women learn to be afraid of men's sex drive. Boys never learn how hormones affect our sex drive, only that our cycles are a pain to them. We never learn how we can manage each other's "issues" to maintain a healthy sexual life and interest. We're all supposed to just stumble through and work it out without enough information. It just doesn't make sense and it certainly isn't working very well.

Talk to your girls about sex. Talk to your girls about men. Please! Make yourself available for their questions. Do it in a way that will make it OK for her to be interested in sex when she's older. Make sure your older kids know relationships take a lot of work and help them understand what that work is all about. Talk to them about sex like to talk to them about driving...it takes time, it takes care, there are rules to follow, you gotta pay attention, you gotta treat your car just so.

Careful guys! Even if your sex life was good B.C., First hand experience tells me that the advice given in this article doesn't always work. Even when my X and I were again having sex regularly, it fealt more like sex out of a sense of obligation. that can very emotionally damaging to both partners and in my case, it destroyed an otherwise happy marriage. Seek counseling communicate honestly. DON'T CHEAT. That's ridiculous. Don't operate our of spite. I don't agree that "negotiating" for sex is a workable solution. Just try to focus on all the other benefits of a happy marriage. Divorce is a terrible alternative.

Nothing new here, huh? Just us guys wondering why we always want it and she always has a reason why not. I love, nurture, comfort, cook, clean, work, build, fix, and the most I can hope for is perfunctory "do your dirty little thing baby if it'll make you feel better" sex. Some guys might not mind a little cold get-it-done up and down but what if you really love your wife and nothing in any forum about slow, day long seductions, or "do more chores" seems to elicit anything more romantic than a "thanks dear"? Is it really just a Mars and Venus misunderstanding that has perplexed us for thousands of years? Or is it the beginning of the end?
I actually heard my wife's sister refer to sex recently as "just one more thing I gotta do before I can go to sleep". Holy shit do I feel doomed.
I think it's time to move to France.
Can anyone out there tell me that this really is just a temporary thing (our daughter is 4 months and we haven't really "made love" since she was 6 months pregnant) or is this how it is from now on? Honesty please.

Billie,
I think you should take those comments as just an indicator of the frustration men feel for a long period after the baby is born and the sex life wanes or disappears. Hopefully, none of us stray, but men do think about sex a lot, and we're always working to avoid temptation.

Just found this website and thought I recommend it to my husband...not now. I certainly don't want anyone suggesting a "mistress" even kidding. I can't think of a single woman who would find that mildly amusing. Shame on Drew and James!

two words: hot mistress :)

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