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After the elation
of finding out your wife's pregnant, you’ll likely find yourself pondering whether everything
you’ve always heard about sex and babies is true. Will you still be as turned on by your wife during
and after pregnancy? Will sex during pregnancy make either of you too worried about hurting the baby
to enjoy yourself? Will your wife be as sexually motivated as she was while you were trying to get
pregnant? The only thing certain is that your sex life will change. The cold hard facts are that you
will likely be having less sex from now on, a condition that extends beyond the birth of your new
baby. Most of this is never discussed between dads, unless with a knowing wink or a pained
joke.
Your
desires
In the
first trimester, you might feel hornier than ever. You’ll feel closer to your wife than ever before.
You may feel a strange pride that people will know that you’re responsible for the baby growing
insider her. On the other hand, pregnancy may create some contradictions. You now will be having sex
with a mom, which might seem less than sexy to you. More likely, however, is that your wife’s
increasingly full and curvy form will seem more erotic to you.
Her desires
Your wife’s desires will go up and down and can vary
from trimester to trimester. She may be less inhibited without birth control, more intimate with you
due to your new responsibility, and more sexy because of her filled out shape. For your sake, we’ll
hope for this scenario. On the other hand, she may spend a lot of the first trimester vomiting. She
may feel more maternal and less sexual, or she may just feel fat and unattractive.
Baby
safety
Everyone
worries at least a little bit about sex hurting the baby. It’s hard not to imagine pushing deep into
the baby’s temporary home with every thrust. Your baby is safe, however, within a cushioned amniotic
fluid-filled sac. There is very little risk to your baby unless you're having very rough
sex.
What you can
do
As with most
issues within a relationship, the best thing you can do is talk about your needs and desires. You
may have to take the lead to try new positions and other options since traditional positions may
become too painful or uncomfortable in the last months. Whatever makes your mate the most
comfortable is your best chance at having a sex life through the third
trimester. |
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