Be specific in praising your children: Don’t just say, “You were good today.” Find specific incidences that define good behavior for your children. “You played nicely with your sister and took turns” and “Thank you for remembering to pick up your toys” describe the behavior you want and expect from your children. Defining good behavior helps them understand the goal
Offer occasional rewards: Reward helps children be self-motivated to do well. Children whose parents use reward-based systems tend to be more secure, more confident, more responsible, and more creative
Utilize self-fulfilling prophesy: In essence, children become what you tell them they are. If you tell them they are kind, they’ll more than likely try to be kind. And, if you tell them they are brats, they will simply prove you right. As fathers, you need to deposit appropriate, but true words into her bank.
All too often a father’s words create emotional bankruptcy. Take every opportunity to deposit words of gold.