Discovering Resilience through Happiness with Brad Chandler

Joining us is Brad Chandler, a renowned happiness coach, to discuss the profound connection between happiness and resilience. Often, society misguides us to chase external markers of success like money, fame, and superficial pleasures, but Brad’s insights urge us to look inward.

In this episode, you will be able to:

1. Learn that true happiness comes from within, not from external possessions.
2. Discover how early childhood experiences shape adult life and the importance of addressing them.
3. Explore techniques to identify and rewrite childhood stories that drive adult negative behaviors.
4. Understand the crucial role of self-love in achieving happiness and how to develop it.
5. Gain practical tools like the “joy regenerator” to transform negative emotions and build resilience.

Hey everyone, Paul Banas here, from Great Dad Talks. I recently had a profound and eye-opening conversation with Brad Chandler, a transformative happiness coach, about the interplay between happiness and resilience. This episode delved deep into the essence of happiness and its powerful effects on our lives. I’m excited to share some of the key insights and actionable advice Brad shared with us.

The Pursuit of Happiness: Beyond Money and Fame

We started our discussion with a reflection on the notion of happiness as a life goal. Often, society directs us towards material wealth, fame, and external validation as sources of happiness. However, Brad shared an essential truth:

“Everything you need to be happy, you have inside you right now.”

He emphasized that true happiness comes from a deep connection with oneself rather than external achievements.

Unlearning to Relearn: Addressing Childhood Programming

One of the most illuminating parts of our conversation centered on the idea that many of our adult challenges stem from unresolved issues and learned behaviors from childhood.

“If you’re not happy, you probably lack self-love. And if you lack self-love, then you’ve got some of these embedded programming from early childhood that are still ruling your life.” – Brad Chandler

This means that the root cause of many negative behaviors, whether it’s addiction, depression, or anxiety, often lies in untruths formed during stressful childhood moments. The good news, Brad assured us, is that what’s learned can also be unlearned.

Key Steps to Achieve Happiness and Resilience

Brad’s approach to coaching involves a blend of individual and group sessions, focusing on uncovering and rewriting these deep-seated stories. Here are some of the steps he outlined:

Identify the Underlying Story

1. Recognize Negative Behaviors:Understand that these are symptoms, not the root problem.
2. Connect with the Past:Relive the moments when these stories were formed.
3. Rewrite the Narrative:Use memory reconsolidation to show your mind the untruths, thereby changing the neural pathways.

Joy Regenerator Tool

Brad introduced a practical tool called the ‘Joy Regenerator’, which helps in continually reinforcing positive changes.

• Feel the Emotion:Acknowledge what you’re feeling.
• Self-Compassion:Imagine comforting your younger self.
• Affirmation:Reinforce the truth that you are enough.

The Lifelong Journey of Self-Love

Brad also touched on the importance of self-love as a cornerstone of happiness and resilience.

“The more you do it, the easier it becomes… Any time I’m triggered, it’s the old self creeping in.” – Brad Chandler

The Self-Love Quiz

Brad offers a Self-Love Quiz on his website, unlocklimitlessyou.com, which can help individuals assess their current state of self-love and begin their journey towards healing and happiness.

Living Authentically

A recurring theme in our discussion was the importance of living authentically and being present. We talked about how societal pressures often lead us to wear masks, but true liberation comes from being genuine and self-accepting.

“Think about a little 6-year-old coming up to you and saying, I feel sad. What would you do? You’d pick them up and say, I love you. It’s going to be okay.” – Brad Chandler

Conclusion: The Continuous Path to Inner Peace

Ultimately, discovering happiness and building resilience is a continuous path. Brad’s insights provided a refreshing and hopeful perspective on undergoing deep personal transformation.

For those ready to embark on this transformative journey, I highly recommend checking out Brad’s resources, including his podcast ‘How to Be Happier for Entrepreneurs’ and his Self-Love Quiz.

I invite you all to take these insights to heart and consider incorporating them into your daily lives. Remember, the power to transform your life lies within you.

Stay connected, stay resilient.

Connect with Brad Chandler

• Website:Unlock Limitless You
• Podcast:How to Be Happier for Entrepreneurs

Until next time, I’m Paul Banas with Great Dad Talks. Stay strong, dads.