Children will get your attention one way or another. It’s hard for fathers to understand, but to some children, negative attention and even punishment are better than no attention at all. If children don’t get what they want, your attention, by being good, they will get your attention by being bad. So the key is, don’t make them fight for your attention. Catch them … [Read more...] about Attention and Self-respect
Archives for January 2007
Tips on motivating your children
Be specific in praising your children: Don’t just say, “You were good today.” Find specific incidences that define good behavior for your children. “You played nicely with your sister and took turns” and “Thank you for remembering to pick up your toys” describe the behavior you want and expect from your children. Defining good behavior helps them understand the goal Offer … [Read more...] about Tips on motivating your children
Easing their hearts
Follow these tips to help lay your toddlers’ fears to rest: Take it slow: Have unfamiliar friends and relatives say hello to your children while you hold them in your arms. Look and learn: Have them look at older kids sit calmly in the barber chair (and receive a lollipop at the end). This will prepare them for the experience Be honest: Don't say that the shot won't … [Read more...] about Easing their hearts
Nighttime Fears
Fathers must anticipate that fear of separation turning bedtime into a struggle. "Nighttime is scary for most children," Dr. Brody says. Certain comforting routines, such as giving your children a warm bath or having them snuggle up on your lap for a story, can provide the extra reassurance they need before bed. If your 1-year-olds wake up in the middle of the night … [Read more...] about Nighttime Fears
Fear and the sense of self
At this very young age your children gain a "sense of self," an understanding that they are distinct and independent persons. The anxiety of being left alone or of unfamiliar things (or faces) can come and go for the first two years of life; for some children, it lasts even longer. By 18 months, though, most toddlers are better at managing their fears of … [Read more...] about Fear and the sense of self