How well do we know--and how much do we know about--our daughters' best friends? The answer to that question seems like a pretty good barometer of where our father-daughter relationship stands. I always seemed to know my daughters’ best friends fairly well. When Nia was 19, I asked her why she thought that was so. "Well," she said, "you're friends with … [Read more...] about Do You Know Her Best Friends
Back when you and I were kids, girls read Seventeen magazine hoping to learn how to look and good get a date. Today, even with cable and the internet, young girls still turn to Seventeen, Cosmo Girl and Teen Vogue (and their websites) with the same hopes. Girls today have many more life opportunities than they did a generation ago, so why are their most widely-read … [Read more...] about Why Teen Magazines Might be Bad for Your Daughter?
I happen to be an alcoholic and, thankfully, I got sober before my daughters were born. As of today, they’ve never seen me drink. I used to think that, because I didn’t drink, I hadn’t modeled for my kids an example of responsible alcohol use. I felt I hadn’t said enough to my daughters about alcohol; that maybe I should have a big “T” Talk on the subject. I never had that … [Read more...] about The Big (Capital “T”) Talk
A lot of dads have to be doing something else before we feel ready to start talking to each other about our kids. A jog, a card game, a yard project, a round of golf, or any number of other “guy” activities can serve as safe places for us to jump in, or at least stick our toes in to test the water. For others of us, a more formal, organized setting dedicated specifically to … [Read more...] about Why Aren’t There More Groups for Fathers?
Girls tend to be a riddle to fathers and stepfathers. Like any mystery, the relationship with our daughter can be frightening, exciting, entertaining, baffling, enlightening or leave us completely in the dark; sometimes all at once. If we want to unravel this mystery, we have to pay attention and listen, even in the most ordinary moments.Why? Because a girl’s voice may be … [Read more...] about Listen, Listen, and Listen Some More