Your Changing Sex Life – Part 1

After the elation of finding out you’re pregnant, you’ll likely find yourself pondering whether everything you’ve always heard about sex and babies is true. Will you still be as turned on by your wife during and after pregnancy?   Will sex during pregnancy make either of you too worried about hurting the baby to enjoy yourself? Will your wife be as sexually motivated as she was while you were trying to get pregnant?    The only thing certain is that your sex life will change.  The cold hard facts are that you will likely be having less sex from now on, a condition that extends beyond the birth of your new baby.   Most of this is never discussed between dads, unless with a knowing wink or a pained joke. 

 

Your Desires 

In the first trimester, you might feel hornier than ever. You’ll feel closer to your wife than ever before.  You may feel a strange pride that people will know that you’re responsible for the baby growing insider her. On the other hand, pregnancy may create some contradictions.  You now will be having sex with a mom, which might seem less than sexy to you.   More likely, however, is that your wife’s increasingly full and curvy form will seem more erotic to you. 

 

Her Desires 

Your wife’s desires will go up and down and can vary from trimester to trimester. She may be less inhibited without birth control, more intimate with you due to your new responsibility, and more sexy because of her filled out shape. For your sake, we’ll hope for this scenario. On the other hand, she may spend a lot of the first trimester vomiting.  She may feel more maternal and less sexual, or she may just feel fat and unattractive.  

 

Baby Safety 

Everyone worries at least a little bit about sex hurting the baby. It’s hard not imagining pushing deep into the baby’s temporary home with every thrust.  Your baby is safe, however, within a cushioned amniotic fluid-filled sac. There is very little risk to your baby unless you’re having very rough sex. 

 

What You Can Do 

As with most issues within a relationship, the best thing you can do is talk about your needs and desires. You may have to take the lead to try new positions and other options since traditional positions may become too painful or uncomfortable in the last months. Whatever makes your mate the most comfortable is your best chance at having a sex life through the third trimester. 

 

As for sex after the baby arrives, we’ll cover that in a few months…