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Your changing sex life: Sex after pregnancy - Why doesnít she feel like it?

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Itís been a few months since she delivered and youíre still looking for the libido thatís been missing since late in the pregnancy. And it feels like prom night when you suggest the suggestive: all you get is blank stares and withdrawals. The question on your mind is: is it all over? Is this all thatís left: to adapt yourself to a sexless platonic relationship?

Look closer: like in the movies when the main character has been killed off prematurely, things may not be as they seem. Chances are that your spouse just needs more time or maybe sheís been waiting for you to make the right moves.

Here are a few tips to help you gauge her mood and get her in the back seat of your sex drive:
  • The Ďwhení question: This isnít as difficult as it seems: the answer isówhen she feels like it! The common standard is generally six weeks. And get her doctorís opinion before you try anything funny.
  • Feeling sexy? Of course you are. Youíre a man. After pregnancy, women tend to experience sleep deprivation, fatigue, and even depression. They get tired and turned offóbut this is only temporary. Be patient.
  • Believe it or not! The best thing you can do to turn her on is help out with the baby. Seeing her man pushing a stroller is a sexy sight for a woman. Changing a diaper even more so. Go figure.
  • Be spontaneous: Just because youíre a dad and sheís a mom doesnít mean you canít romance her. Leave the baby with the in-laws and sneak out with her to a private room in a hotel. Itís the right time to surprise her with your affections.
  • Itís the economy, stupid! Try hiring a babysitter (if momís ok with it) to get some time off for the two of you to get reacquainted with the joy of sex. But be ready and accepting if she doesnít feel like it.
  • Leave the bra on: Breasts spurting baby milk can be a big turn off for many dads. A good idea is to leave the bra on. Itís old fashioned and maybe itís time you enjoyed that lingerie.
Above all, donít be a fool and rush right in. Donít force her and donít complain when you donít get nookie. Keep trying but donít be tryingóif you get what weíre saying.
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