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Itís been a few months since she delivered and youíre still
looking for the libido thatís been missing since late in the pregnancy. And it feels like prom night
when you suggest the suggestive: all you get is blank stares and withdrawals. The question on your
mind is: is it all over? Is this all thatís left: to adapt yourself to a sexless platonic
Look closer: like in the movies when the main character has been killed off
prematurely, things may not be as they seem. Chances are that your spouse just needs more time or
maybe sheís been waiting for you to make the right moves.
Here are a few tips to help you
gauge her mood and get her in the back seat of your sex drive:
The Ďwhení question: This
isnít as difficult as it seems: the answer isówhen she feels like it! The common standard is
generally six weeks. And get her doctorís opinion before you try anything funny.
Feeling sexy? Of course you are. Youíre a man. After pregnancy, women tend to
experience sleep deprivation, fatigue, and even depression. They get tired and turned offóbut this
is only temporary. Be patient.
Believe it or not! The best thing you can do to turn her
on is help out with the baby. Seeing her man pushing a stroller is a sexy sight for a woman.
Changing a diaper even more so. Go figure.
Be spontaneous: Just because youíre a dad
and sheís a mom doesnít mean you canít romance her. Leave the baby with the in-laws and sneak out
with her to a private room in a hotel. Itís the right time to surprise her with your affections.
Itís the economy, stupid! Try hiring a babysitter (if momís ok with it) to get some
time off for the two of you to get reacquainted with the joy of sex. But be ready and accepting if
she doesnít feel like it.
Leave the bra on: Breasts spurting baby milk can be a big
turn off for many dads. A good idea is to leave the bra on. Itís old fashioned and maybe itís time
you enjoyed that lingerie.
Above all, donít be a fool and rush right in. Donít force
her and donít complain when you donít get nookie. Keep trying but donít be tryingóif you get what