With over 40 years of experience as a physician, hospital administrator, hospice care specialist, author, and COVID-19 researcher, Dr. Ravi Iyer brings a wealth of knowledge and unique insights on resilience. Join us as we explore these practical and philosophical approaches to resilience, aiming to equip you with the tools to navigate life’s adversities and support your children’s journey through their own challenges.
In this episode, you will be able to:
- Discover why having a strong sense of self and understanding your purpose is essential for resilience.
- Understand how hope, bolstered by past victories, helps you face and overcome adversity.
- Find out how mentors act as mirrors, revealing both your current self and your potential, and why this is crucial for personal growth.
- Learn actionable advice on how to model and teach resilience to your kids from Ravi’s personal experiences.
- Delve into the differences between coaching and mentoring, and why mentoring offers a broader scope for personal development.
Hey there, Paul Banas here with Great Dad Talks, and I am thrilled to share some incredible insights from our latest episode featuring Dr. Ravi Iyer. In this episode, we delved into the topic of resilience, a trait essential for dads to model and instill in their kids, and equally crucial for navigating everyday challenges at work and home.
Dr. Iyer is a seasoned physician, hospital administrator, and author who has a wealth of experience to share. His practical and philosophical take on resilience is something every dad can learn from. Let’s dive into some of the key points from our discussion.
Understanding Resilience: The Foundation
Dr. Iyer highlights that resilience isn’t just about bouncing back from adversity but involves a deeper, more grounded approach:
- Sense of Self (Grounding Identity): According to Dr. Iyer, “If you don’t know what you are really alive for, if you do not know why you are on this planet, then you don’t have a ground to stand on to face adversity.”
- Hope: The belief that you can overcome challenges, built on past successes, is crucial.
- Mentorship: A mentor acts as a “mirror,” reflecting who you are and who you can become.
Key Concepts of Resilience
Grounding Identity
Dr. Iyer calls it the “grounding narrative” or the “why” of your existence. This foundational belief gives you the strength to face life’s adversities. He shared, “Each person has to make a decision. What is it that he exists for? What is the reason for his existence?”
This concept echoes ancient wisdom and modern philosophy alike:
- Example from Archimedes: “Give me a ground to stand on, and I’ll move the world.”
- Simon Sinek’s ‘Why’: Similar to how companies need a purpose, individuals need a why.
Practical Takeaway: How to Find Your “Why”
- Reflect on what you’re deeply passionate about.
- Consider what values are non-negotiable for you.
- Think about what you feel compelled to do, regardless of external validation.
Hope
Having hope rooted in past experiences is the second pillar of resilience. “You need to have some hope that this challenge that is coming to you, that you will have some ability to overcome it,” Dr. Iyer explained. This hope isn’t based on wishful thinking but on real, albeit small, victories from your past.
Bridging Failures: The Role of Mentors
When you face repeated failures despite knowing your why, a mentor becomes essential. Dr. Iyer elaborated, “A mentor acts like a mirror in that he shows you who you are. He shows you your why, and then he shows you what you can be.” This reflective process is crucial for personal growth and overcoming persistent challenges.
Being a Good Mentor
As a father, you are often the first mentor your child encounters. Dr. Iyer shared an insightful anecdote about his own children. He felt he was a good mentor for his daughter but struggled more with his son. However, his son eventually found strength through the support of his partner, demonstrating the importance of finding the right mentor or mirror in life.
Conclusion: Putting Resilience into Practice
Resilience, as Dr. Iyer delineates, is built on:
- Understanding and embodying your why.
- Cultivating hope through recognition of past successes.
- Engaging with mentors to reflect and amplify your potential.
Dr. Ravi Iyer
Physician, Scientist, Author, Inventor, Entrepreneur, Inspirational Speaker
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