As your toddler grows and explores newer activities, you will find it necessary to teach your toddler to accept your authority when you communicate it to him. The trick to disciplining your toddler is to be firm, yet gentle. Remember, you are doing it for your toddler’s good.
Here are some tips to help you discipline your toddler in a positive way without being harsh or cruel:
- Give clear directives: Leave no room for miscommunication while giving instructions to your toddler.
- Be practical: Have naturalistic expectations from your toddler. Find out what is normal behavior for a toddler and set expectations that your toddler can achieve with disciplined behavior.
- Find out what clicks for your toddler: If you know what is precious to your toddler, you can easily motivate him or her to follow your commands.
- Be committed: Stick by your words no matter what. If you are not consistent and or give in too easily, chances are your toddler will not take you seriously.
- Practice what you preach: You should do this as often as it is possible. If your toddler observes you doing something that you defined as being incorrect, your toddler will not understand why there are different rules for you. For example, try to use “please” and “thank you” yourself while teaching your child. You may even give your toddler the chance to correct you if you aren’t following the rules you’ve agreed on.
- Understand the mental level of your toddler: You need to explain to your toddler the consequences of undisciplined behavior in a manner comprehensible to your toddler.
My husband yells and insults our kids especially when he comes home from work. I know he is tired but when he does that i hate it and isometimes stop him by saying ok enough for today b4 he carries on. He says i spoilt them and i have taught them to not respect him. In fact i have wonderful kids who r always looking forward for him coming home but when he steps in they get frighten. My youngest who is 4 is not close to him , she is always clingy on me and always wanting me. And does not go to him that much so he is so hurt by it that he tells her that she does not have a daddy anymore and she can be mummy’s . he said he does not want her and i ‘ve spoilt her to the max.I got so mad with him and told him he could walk out if he thinks that we are all ganging up against him which he tell me all the time. He does not know how tiring is it to be a housewife of three kids and yet also attend to his needs, which he says i dont. what do i do??