I just called up to my four year old son, asking him if he wanted soup with his lunch. His response? “No, thank you, daddy.” Now I suppose if I lived in the South, I’d be disappointed he didn’t say “sir,” but here in laid back California, just the “thank you” was a big reward for about 800 days of correcting and cajoling. Kids learn from repetition and consistency. We never let a request come without a “please” followed by a “thank you.” And, we let the kids correct us if we forget. It actually works. My eight-year-old wouldn’t think of skipping those words and she’s always invited for playdates.
I once heard that etiquette is not something you do so that you are following the rules and doing the right thing. You do it as a favor to the other person to put them at ease, to show your appreciation, and to show respect. These are all good lessons for kids. Will it make them actually feel these things? I can’t say for sure, but it feels good when you hear it and I doubt it’s a habit they’ll try to give up later.
Whether you like a “free-spirited” house or a well-disciplined machine, here are some good rules to keep for kids under five to make sure they are welcome guests wherever they go:
It’s often up to you as the parent to other families with like-minded values. It will be easier to teach these and other lessons if your child at this age isn’t spending time with other kids who ignore the basic rules completel