Tips To Save Your Marriage After Kids

Kids are always a top priority for parents, and they should be; but do you feel like your spouse does not have enough time for you? Do you feel your marriage is slowly slipping away?  Here are tips from real dads (and some moms) on how to keep your marriage alive.  The tips are simple, time-tested and easy to implement, if you can just manage to spend a few extra minutes with your spouse alone.

Dad’s say:

“Spontaneous acts of kindness and expressions of love, the simpler the better. Unexpected flowers, a little note, a simple caress at the kitchen sink, just be sure it’s focused on saying I LOVE YOU!”
-Tom, Duluth

“Hire a babysitter and go on frequent dates!”
-Gus, El Paso

“2 suggestions…
1 – Get rid of the kids! Hah! Seriously though, even just for an evening, it does wonders.
2 – No, seriously… get rid of the kids!”
-Miguel, Troy

“When I get home from work, I automatically take the kids over for a while; let the wife “walk”. She takes her computer out to the desk in the garage for a while, with no kids on her back, scores major points, always puts her in a better mood.”
-Terry, Garden City

“My wife likes when I plan a meal, shop, and then prepare it. It’s not gourmet, but it shows her that I appreciate all she does for the family.”
-James, Niskayuna

“To always appreciate each other and take the time to look at the person and always hug.”
-Richard, Randolph

“Be spontaneous don’t let things get in a rut, always try something new”
-Mike, West Rutland

“Pencil in time for sex on your schedule!”
-Richard, Winston Salem

“Always kiss each other goodnight”
- Christopher, Elk Grove

“Don’t yell at her!”
-Earl, Arnoldsburg

And the Mom’s say:

“Always make your spouse Number ONE. The kids will grow up and leave.”
-Deborah, Forest Lake

“Date night. One night a week, get a babysitter and spend time alone together relaxing. We will celebrate 27 years soon and without that time as a “couple” we would have been completely out of touch with each other when the kids left home.”
-Corinne, Shawnee

“Vacations away for just the two of us would keep our marriage fresh.”
-Tammy, Monrovia

“Don’t forget why you fell in love and make your partner your 1st priority.”
-Laura, Portland

“Take time to chill on the couch with just the two of you.”
-Denise, Santaquin

“Take time for yourself. Love each other passionately. Never let the kids sleep in your bed (you will never get them out) Communicate, have quiet time together.”
-Stacy, Lynchburg

“Learn to have fun with the little things. A romantic dinner together at home can be just as special as going out.”
-Rita, Cherry Hill

“The best advice I got was to find the time for each other even if you have to schedule it, like you would any other appointment or thing on your to do list.”
-Cherie, Mesa

“Never go to bed mad, plan a date night at least once a month and be as forgiving and understanding as you want her to be.”
-Laura, Royse City

“Remember to lock the bedroom door!”
-Ellen, Saint Augustine

“Don’t have any more kids.”
-Leloni, Madison