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After the elation of finding out your wife’s pregnant, you’ll likely find yourself pondering whether everything you’ve always heard about sex and babies is true. Will you still be as turned on by your wife during and after pregnancy? Will sex during pregnancy make either of you too worried about hurting the baby to enjoy yourself? Will your wife be as sexually motivated as she was while you were trying to get pregnant? The only thing certain is that your sex life will change. The cold hard facts are that you will likely be having less sex from now on, a condition that extends beyond the birth of your new baby. Most of this is never discussed between dads, unless with a knowing wink or a pained joke.
Your desires
In the first trimester, you might feel hornier than ever. You’ll feel closer to your wife than ever before. You may feel a strange pride that people will know that you’re responsible for the baby growing insider her. On the other hand, pregnancy may create some contradictions. You now will be having sex with a mom, which might seem less than sexy to you. More likely, however, is that your wife’s increasingly full and curvy form will seem more erotic to you.
Her desires
Your wife’s desires will go up and down and can vary from trimester to trimester. She may be less inhibited without birth control, more intimate with you due to your new responsibility, and more sexy because of her filled out shape. For your sake, we’ll hope for this scenario. On the other hand, she may spend a lot of the first trimester vomiting. She may feel more maternal and less sexual, or she may just feel fat and unattractive.
Baby safety
Everyone worries at least a little bit about sex hurting the baby. It’s hard not to imagine pushing deep into the baby’s temporary home with every thrust. Your baby is safe, however, within a cushioned amniotic fluid-filled sac. There is very little risk to your baby unless you’re having very rough sex.
What you can do
As with most issues within a relationship, the best thing you can do is talk about your needs and desires. You may have to take the lead to try new positions and other options since traditional positions may become too painful or uncomfortable in the last months. Whatever makes your mate the most comfortable is your best chance at having a sex life through the third trimester.
I am an upcoming attraction in my un born babies life and very excited, just as much as my wife ofcourse. 🙂 I would love to recieve information to better prepare me for whats to come. thanks alot and god bless.
she is 16 weeks if thats any help to your jobs. thanx again. god bless.
Iam a would be father so i would like to recieve all the suggestions regarding my wifes pregnancy and her health
I’m not with my baby daddy but i have gotten back with my ex if he cums in me all the time when we have sex can the baby get traits from him
i’m 3 1/2 months now too
Couldn’t agree more. Making love with a pregnant woman was sexy at first, but less comfortable as the months wore on. By the end, it was clear, sex would never be the same again.
what are my responblity & duties for care of my pregnant wife ? please give detail suggestions.
Wife’s 3 months pregnant now. Hvae’nt had sex with her in between coz of da feel 2 hurt da baby.. I need to know in detail how to exactly do sex with my wife and how to take care of her throughout her time till delivery other then sex.
YES…!! I have great time ahead with my baby… 🙂
cnt wait to hug my dynamite gf and thank her for letting my baby stay in her for 9mos.
Cant express how happy i am as i m expecting my first child with my amazing wife
just want to post my excitement of expecting my first child….
Not a comment more of a question. Wife is 3months pregnant, sex is still great, only thing is we cant figure out what the mess is?! After i’m done and we’ve rested a bit, look on the mattress and there’s the obvious mess but there’s a thicker mess? Any idea?
Cheers lads
Tip top stuff. I’ll epcext more now.
Im carrying my 2nd baby.i realy njoy this period.